The Caregiver’s Tales
Tiny essays on life, nature, grief and other things that catch my fancy in the Texas Hill Country. Here’s how it all got started.
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Final Movement
I am in overdrive. The weeds and grasses are flying out of the gardens; new stones edge the work. My big gate hangs, fixed; the star and the fleur de lis are painted and drying. I am getting ready for spring, because the gardens are getting ready for spring. Young bluebonnets are everywhere in the lawn and fields, and the Gregg’s Mist flower is sprouting, and the big oaks are shedding and the coral sages are budding.
Comfortable Again
The other day my oldest son and I were talking about how nice it feels to be home from a long trip that involved a lot of hustle and bustle. To sit in my chair, in my home. To have nothing to do other than what I want. And we talked about how difficult it used to be right after his mother passed. To be alone in the house. And how different it felt now, and as I tried to sum it up, he said, “The quiet is comfortable again.”
Travelogue
Travel. Especially long trips. Trips of more than two days. Always wears me out. It’s a litany of bathrooms with no room for dopp kits, showers with no water pressure, digging in bags for clothes, sketchy meals, and hit or miss beds. It was true in my youth as a business traveler and true now as a retired traveler. It’s the part that people who don’t travel miss or fail to understand. The pleasure of travel comes with a price and you have to be willing to pay it.
Show Time
I am on the ground In Red River, New Mexico. This is my third trip to the Red River Songwriters Festival. There was heavy snow in the days preceding my arrival, and it snowed a bit yesterday upon my arrival. Then the weather cleared and now it is only clear and cold. Good winter weather for an old man who has never skied in his life and has no plans to start.
Healing Trip
I’m on the road, sitting in a hotel in Albuquerque, New Mexico, waiting for the sun to rise. It’s the first leg of our pilgrimage to Red River, where we commune with friends and listen to music. We added this stop because a musician friend of ours has moved back home to care for her ailing mother, and we miss her and wanted to show our support. She joined us for a late dinner and later today will show us around the old town before taking us up a mountain to have a drink and watch the sun set.
Unknowns
I really like this idea of multiple universes. That each of us might be our own universe. Or maybe we’re just thin slices of a bigger universe. And we’re only that which we have observed. So, this means what I’ve observed is different than what other people have observed. And I used to think that all of this was impossible, there’s only one universe, but then I realized, I had no idea the moon existed until I saw it, and no idea what to call it until someone told me, and that was just something everyone agreed to. So, until I saw it, it didn’t exist, and there was no reason for me to believe that it did or would.
New Universe
So, yesterday I was talking about thought experiments and so-called “over thinking”, and came to the realization the latter was probably the former, and it was good. And I think back to all the times I put it to use in my career, grabbing hold of a problem and mulling it over until suddenly there was an answer, and I can quote several of the cases to you, chapter and verse, the problem and the solution.
Gone
A good, odd thing happened the other day. I discovered I had failed to return home from my trip to Virginia with my knit hat, cashmere scarf, and lined leather gloves. I asked my daughter to check the house to see if they were anywhere to be found. When no word came to indicate a positive outcome, this is when the odd, good thing happened. I had no response to my loss other than acceptance. It was a thing that happened and I was good.